The Haunting of Present Joy: Temporality, Regret, and the Paradox of Warnings in My Old Ass
On its surface, Megan Park’s My Old Ass (2024) presents itself as a high-concept coming-of-age comedy: an 18-year-old girl, Elliott (Maisy Stella), trips on shrooms and meets her 39-year-old self (Aubrey Plaza). The older Elliott serves as a cynical, weary oracle, issuing a single, stark warning: “Stay away from anyone named Chad.” This premise delivers the expected teen-film beats—humorous anachronisms, generational clashes, and a pop-soundtrack heart. However, to dismiss My Old Ass as merely a millennial-baiting gimmick is to miss its profound philosophical core. The film is not a comedy about time travel but a tragedy about the tyranny of hindsight. It argues that warnings from the future are inherently useless because the value of an experience—even a painful one—cannot be separated from the innocence of its moment. Through its subversion of the “prevention” plot, My Old Ass posits that regret is not an error of judgment but the very texture of a life fully lived. My Old Ass
In their key conversations, Older Elliott never laughs with her younger self; she laughs at the memory of joy, as if it were a naive disease. Plaza plays her as a ghost haunting her own origin story—not a mentor, but a warning label. The film’s climax arrives when Young Elliott realizes that her older self’s greatest regret is not losing Chad, but losing the capacity to lose him with abandon. The warning, therefore, is an act of selfishness dressed as protection. Older Elliott wants to edit the past not to save her younger self, but to soothe her own present ache. This inversion—where the future is the parasite and the past is the host—elevates the film above typical age-gap dramedy. The Haunting of Present Joy: Temporality, Regret, and
Park masterfully stages this conflict through temporal irony. The audience, aligned with Older Elliott, waits for the shoe to drop—for Chad to reveal himself as a monster or a bore. Instead, Chad is genuinely good: kind, vulnerable, and loving. The “disaster” Older Elliott wishes to prevent is not abuse or betrayal, but the specific, ordinary agony of first love ending. The film’s radical move is to show that the warning cannot work because the pain is the point . Young Elliott must love Chad precisely to become the woman who would warn her younger self away from him. This creates a closed-loop paradox: the warning erases the very conditions that produced the warner. To obey would be to annihilate the self giving the advice. The film is not a comedy about time