Luskin’s research shows that holding a grudge is a chronic stress response. When you replay an offense, your body releases cortisol and adrenaline—the same chemicals as when you are being chased by a bear. Unforgiveness tricks your body into thinking the threat is happening right now , even if the event was 20 years ago.
That is why forgiveness is healthcare, not just spirituality. Perdonar Es Sanar Fred Luskin.pdf
Forgiveness does NOT mean reconciliation. You do not have to trust your abuser, stay in a toxic relationship, or say "what you did is okay." You can forgive someone and never speak to them again. Forgiveness happens entirely inside you . Luskin’s research shows that holding a grudge is
You don't forgive because they deserve it. You forgive because you deserve peace. stay in a toxic relationship